The Politician
Treva is a politician and an accomplished public speaker. She has an… interesting relationship with the truth, and she says whatever she believes will benefit her the most in any given situation.
Do I have to move to Charlestown to benefit from some of that “unwavering honesty”? Do her callous lies about being a victim of domestic violence demonstrate “empathy” for the women and men who really do suffer from spousal abuse? Does she “respect” herself enough to tell the truth?
Unfortunately, she can’t tell the truth. By making these claims in such a public way, it’s a part of her fabricated story now. The truth undermines her credibility. Former Mayor Hall learned of her “interesting relationship with the truth” shortly after she took office and publicly accused him of improperly shredding documents to prevent a smooth transition of power. How did that turn out? ISP finds no evidence of wrongdoing after Charlestown mayor claims previous administration left nothing behind
My Shortcomings
I know I wasn’t perfect, but I never claimed to be. I worked over an hour away from home five days a week for eleven years, leaving most mornings before anyone else in the house was awake and arriving home late in the evening. After spending twelve hours in a highly stressful environment, I wasn’t always excited about “doing stuff” when I got home. Most nights, I just wanted to relax and play video games or watch TV.
She even admitted as much in a text message a month after the divorce.
I should have joined CrossFit with her. Maybe I should have tried to put my foot down when she joined, but she held all the power in the relationship. She controlled the finances. She made the big decisions about where we would live or what we spent our money on. For a long time, she only allowed me to be friends with the people at church whose wives she found tolerable. She was the one that wanted to adopt.
She’s the one that wanted to divorce.
So what?
Does anything I’ve written prevent her from being a good mayor? Not by itself, no. If you believe that she has done good things for Charlestown, by all means vote for her. My problems with Treva begin and end with the lies she spread about me to avoid the consequences of her actions. Former Mayor Hall has experienced some of that, and I suspect that as she continues in politics and finds herself facing off against those who would oppose her, more people will as well.
Her lies against me continue, though. Most recently (as far as I’m aware), she claimed in a filing with the court that I’m trying to drag her through endless litigation in a futile attempt to stay inserted in her life, now that the conclusion of our “custody battle” is imminent. There was never a custody battle, and I wouldn’t have had to deal with her at all after the conclusion of the child support case if she hadn’t defamed me in an attempt to deflect attention from that case!
For what it’s worth, her speech suggests she wants to be seen as a good mother, but the same court filings claim that she has only had “minimal and sporadic contacts” with the state where her own children have lived since she moved to Charlestown. Being a good parent isn’t necessary for being a good politician, but don’t be fooled.
What’s Next?
Even as I type this, I’m terrified of what will happen next. I haven’t shied away from sharing my story with people in similar situations, but I’ve always kept her name out of it. “My ex-wife” was nothing more than background — a framing device to explain how I became a single parent. To this day, she stalks my social media to make sure I don’t say anything “out of line”.
Standing up for myself — telling the truth in the face of Treva Hodges’ lies — is either the bravest or the dumbest thing I have ever done.
Only time will tell.
I want to be done. She can’t (and won’t) admit she lied, but I can’t be bullied any longer. I created this website to tell my side of the story to people who wouldn’t otherwise hear it. If you have any comments, questions, or just want more perspective on anything Treva has said about events that may or may not have transpired more than a decade ago, please feel free to contact me through email.
